Know That Your Worth Is In Christ

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Hi friends, let me start by wishing you all a very Happy New Year I hope that 2020 will be good for everybody.  As I look back on 2019, I cannot help but feel very thankful for my walk with Jesus, all glory to God for bringing me this far in my life.  I hope that this year will bring you closer to the lord too. In this post, I just want to share something that God has laid on my heart, and it’s about the importance of knowing your worth in Christ. 

For many years, I’ve always looked to other people for validation; sadly, I’ve wasted so much time worrying about the opinions of others. It’s only human to want to be liked, nobody wants to be hated. Still, as Christians, we should not seek the approval of fellow sinful men and women,  we should stop trying to see ourselves through the eyes of others and instead see our worth in Christ. 

God Knows Our Need Before We Ask

I agree that I don’t know it all. I don’t always know what’s best for myself, but I do know that the God of heaven and earth, the God who created you and me, knows what’s best for His creation. He knows our every need before we even ask Him.  Matthew 6:8, “Your Father knows what you need before you ask him.”

I just want to share with you an excellent quote from Martin Luther “God doesn’t love us because of our worth, we are of worth because God loves us” I really believe when we understand that we must seek to please God and find His validation, nothing can tear us down. Sometimes God allows us to be broken so that He can build us back up again, then again, He is goodness itself, consider this verse(Psalm 34:18) “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit”; other human beings will claim to build you up when they’re tearing you down the difference between those people, and God, is that they are not good.

Beware Of Master Manipulators

This year I’ve decided I’m going to be intentional about seeking the approval of God and not of Man. I do want to respect people, I do want to show the love of Christ and live out the gospel. Still, I do not believe that God intends for his people to allow themselves to be vulnerable to those who only want to control us and eventually do us harm. He doesn’t want us to be ‘yes’ men. Check out the link https://wheremysoulrests.wordpress.com/2019/10/23/when-the-intentions-of-others-are-not-always-good-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/

I am really hoping that from this year onwards, I will use the word ‘no’ more often, albeit judiciously. My aim is to never apologize for who God created me to be and to not reward others who try to guilt-trip me. If this has been a struggle for you too, I hope that you feel convicted to pray about it and seek the Lord’s wisdom on this matter. If we stand firm in God’s word, nothing can shake us. 

God bless,

Lisa

When The Intentions Of Others Are Not Good, What Can You Do As A Christian?

If you have ever had to be on the receiving end of snarky remarks and passive-aggressive behaviors, you know how hurtful and discouraging it can be. Whatever you do, don’t believe for one minute that it comes from a place of love, or that the person means well. The person more than likely doesn’t mean well and is intentional about trying to tear you down with not-so-subtle jabs.

These people make you feel like your opinion doesn’t matter, that they are all-knowing and wise, you must live your life to please them. They are critical about your life choices on parenting, work, study, friendships, and so on, you’ll never do anything right, according to them. This type of bullying can quickly be done by those closest to you, who gas-light you by trying to convince you that they only have good intentions as if it’s just a loving concern for your life.

They do not have good intentions, acknowledge this negativity towards you for what it is; it’s a way for the person to get in your head and control you, it’s emotional abuse – the bible warns us about the hearts of men…

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Luke 6:45 speaks of what is truly in the heart of sinful man…

“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”

This type of negativity is a sin. Don’t make excuses for the person, and whatever you do, do not take ownership of it. Leave the toxicity where it belongs – squarely with the wrongdoer and lean into the Lord. He will take care of the situation if you put your trust in him.

Do not retaliate, if standing up for yourself is not an option, keep your distance and spend time with God, He will renew your strength and…

 “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”(Romans12:21)

Pray for them, and pray for yourself that you do not turn out like them.

Remember that snarks and childish, passive-aggressive behavior has no place in God’s kingdom. Godly people encourage others and build them up.